October 2007
How Are You Doing?
No, seriously, how are you doing? We are interested in your happiness and well being. If you need a shoulder to cry on, let it be ours. If you need to vent, we have understanding and sympathetic ears.
Perhaps you have questions that seem to you to be unanswerable. Share them with us and we'll give it an honest shot.
If you're in need of prayer from folks who care about you, let us know. Our Casa de Santa Maria Prayer Partners throughout the country are ready and dedicated to pray on your behalf.
Don't just sit there feeling alone, reach out. You'll find that you are loved.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q - In preparation for a phone reading, what can I do to insure a successful communication. I'm afraid mom won't show up.
A - Whatever you normally do to relax, do it just before your session. Fear, concern, anger. depression -- negative energies tend to block our ability to connect clearly with those in spirit. Meditate, take a hot bath, listen to some soothing music, light a candle. As soon as you made the decision to connect with your mom in this manner, you put her on notice to show up. She's set, and so are you.
When my wife died in 1981, I was a strong skeptic about such things as communication with someone in spirit. I was talked into connecting with a medium by my boss. (The medium was his brother.) Driving to the appointment, I kept repeating over and over again, "OK Mary Jane, SHOW UP! SHOW UP! SHOW UP!" I shouted as loudly as I could. I strained, grimaced, grunted and pressed -- TO MAKE IT HAPPEN!
Little did I know Mary Jane was having a great belly-laugh at my expense, over my intense effort to control the process to reach her:-)
I wish I had known then what I've learned over the past 13 years:-) I had no concept that our loved ones who have crossed back into spirit, hear/feel every word and emotion we say to them/have for them/think about them. Wow! What a revelation, that it IS and always will be such.
Physical death does not end our relationship. In fact, strange as this might seem, it enhances it! You'll learn the truth of that statement only as you experience it. Relax.
Milt
Q - I recently lost my ex-husband, who is also my 14 year old son's father. There are so many things that I want to tell him. I go to his graveside and talk to him but I just don't know if he hears me or not.
He passed away suddenly so there was no time for me to tell him I was sorry for the way I treated him. Also my son has so much anger inside of him because he and his father did not get along very well over the last few months.
A - Having had over 2,500 communications with those in spirit, I can tell you, with certainty, that your former husband literally feels/hears every thought you think about him. Those things you wished you had shared -- you still can. (and already have --Just by thinking them.)
He also puts thoughts back into your head in response, like, "That's OK Jenn, I wasn't always the easiest guy to get along with. We did love each other, and we did learn from our relationship, and we did bring Darren into the world. All good accomplishments!"
The majoe problem most of us have in not being able to hear their responses is, our minds are so full of daily chatter, it's difficult to tune in to what our loved ones are trying to get through to us. That's why meditation is important in this process.
Just know that he really does hear the messages you send to him. We know this for a fact.
As for Darren, help him release his anger -- physically. If he doesn't get it out -- physically, it will turn into depression and eventually physical illness. Here's an exercise spirit gave us to use in our own lives, and to share with others.
Go buy a strong plastic wiffel ball bat. When anger comes up, grab the bat, place a pillow on the bed and let that pillow represent the person or situation that has triggered your anger. then, beat the hell out of that pillow, as you focus your energy on that person or situation.
Scream, rage, (curse words work good), but get that anger moved out of your body -- physically. It's guaranteed you will feel 200% better after it's all out, and you will be avoiding years of therapy and possible physical illness.
Teach Darren to deal with his anger in this focused positive manner and NEVER discourage him from expressing his anger. The same goes for you. "Forgive & Forget" is for the birds! "Remember & Release" is where the healing begins.
Susan
"Ya Gotta Lighten Up!"
That's what Spirit is constantly reminding Susan and me as we sometimes take life a little too seriously. Soooo, this will be our monthly Lighten Up feature -- and we're asking YOU to contribute to it by sending us your favorite joke. Here's one we received from a friend that had us laughing out loud.
I was due for an appointment with the gynecologist later in the week. Early one morning, I received a call from the doctor's office to tell me that I had been rescheduled for that morning at 9:30 am.
I had only just packed everyone off to work and school, and it was already around 8:45 am. The trip to his office took about 35 minutes, so I didn't have any time to spare.
As most women do, I like to take a little extra effort over hygiene when making such visits, but this time I wasn't going to be able to make the full effort. So, I rushed upstairs, threw off my pajamas, wet the washcloth that was sitting next to the sink, and gave myself a quick wash to make sure I was at least presentable.
I threw the washcloth in the clothes basket, donned some clothes, hopped in the car and raced to my appointment.
I was in the waiting room for only a few minutes when I was called in.
Knowing the procedure, as I'm sure you do, I hopped up on the table, looked over at the other side of the room and pretended that I was in Paris or some other place a million miles away. I was a little surprised when the doctor said, "My, we have made an extra effort this morning, haven't we?" I didn't respond.
After the appointment, I heaved a sigh of relief and went home. The rest of the day was normal. Some shopping, cleaning, cooking.
After school when my 6 year old daughter was playing, she called out from the bathroom, "Mommy, where's my washcloth?" I told her to get another one from the cupboard.
She replied, "No, I need the one that was here by the sink, it had all my glitter and sparkles saved inside it."
NEVER going back to that doctor. EVER!
The Heart of Mother Teresa
"It is easy to love the people far away. It is not always easy to love those close to us. It is easier to give a cup of rice to relieve hunger than to relieve the loneliness and pain of someone unloved in our own home. Bring love into your home for this is where our love for each other must start."
Mother Theresa
The Gentle Art of Blessing
No, it's not yet Thanksgiving Day, but it's always a good time to be counting the many blessings we often overlook in our busy lives.
Here's a beautiful reminder. Please check it out, then come back.
Announcing Two New Books from Susan!
Did you know you had wings?
by Susan K. Sanderford
illustrated by Pamela J. SmithStraight from Mother Mary's heart to yours "Did you know you had wings?" expresses the divine love Mother Mary has for each of her children, whether young or old. As you read you will feel Mother Mary's love surround you, and your heart will be touched. Based on Susan's life-changing visionary experience, this story is designed to build self esteem in our children and within your own inner child.
The happiness-provoking illustrations of Pamela J. Smith will have you smiling. Perfect for ages 1 to 100+. (48 full color pages) $14.98 + S&H
"Tears flowed down my cheeks and my heart opened wide as I read 'Did you know you had wings!' Thank you Susan, Mother Mary and the brilliant artist Pamela." RL - Akron, Ohio
"Guess what my three grandchildren and my older brother are getting for Christmas? Thank you, thank you, thank you. What a healing blessing!" SC - Beaver, Oregon
Messages of Love from Mother Mary's Heart
by Susan Sanderford
illustrated by Dr. Henry ReedMother Mary asked of Susan, “Share my words, and my love, with all my children until they can hear my voice for themselves.” This book is a result of that request. Designed to introduce you to the loving words of Mother Mary, as-well-as to serve as a meditation guide to help you personally connect with Mother Mary’s loving heart and healing presence.
In this incredible book there are 52 channeled messages of love, one for each week of the year. Each message is accompanied with original and stunning Heart-Art by the gifted Dr. Henry Reed. The purpose of this book is to help you find the voice of Mother Mary within your own heart. It is there you will find her waiting to answer your call for guidance, wisdom, understanding and love. (116 full color pages) $26.95 + S&H
"Wow! Susan you did a great job producing this book. It's wonderful to hold and read and look at. I'm honored to have my art with such spiritually uplifting company!" Henry Reed - Mouth of Wilson, Virginia
"A stunning and heart healing aid to connect with the divine within! Powerful." MH - Austin, Texas
To purchase your copies of these very special books click the following link…
http://stores.lulu.com/store
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